Why adults have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since old ages. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause despair, and other harms. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, finances, age difference, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married dating.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affair. I think mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to turn the longing on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your spouse or anybody else? You will need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest cluster, very big actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to think about. Your savings are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, generally the gentleman is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be caring is disappeared, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply grown apart, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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